GATE Exam

Willie Horton
http://www.gurdy.net



The Motivational You
Copyright (c) 2009 Willie Horton

How does one self-motivate?   Are there two parts of us -
one that is the motivator and the other which needs to be
motivated?  Why does research suggests that most so-called
"normal" people do not achieve their goals, dreams and
ambitions?  Why do the majority of people continue to do
work that they dislike?  Why does the World Health
Organization believe that stress will be such a big 21st.
Century killer?   If you're "normal" and you're worried and
stressed, feeling unfulfilled at work, how can you actually
motivate yourself?  And what would you be motivating
yourself for?  Why bother?

Lots of questions - but they all boil down to the key issue
of the extent to which we need to be motivated - and that
most of us are not!  Even many of my own clients, who
should know better, who own their own businesses and whose
future is so much more in their own hands than the normal
employee, tell me that they're de-motivated, that they go
into work knowing the key things that they have to do and
yet they waste their time on doing things that they either
shouldn't be doing, or things that are downright
destructive (like worrying about where new business will
come from, like getting involved in the downward spiral of
gossip about the economic environment, like gossiping about
their competitors) - things that lead them away from their
hopes and dreams.  As a result, they end up more
de-motivated than ever.

But back to that one key issue - the need for
self-motivation and, in particular, one of my very first
questions above - who is doing the motivating and who needs
to be motivated.

Everyone needs to get a kick out of life - if at all
possible, every day.  Years of psychological and market
research that most people only rarely experience any high
in their lives and that, generally, it is short lived.  As
a result, the majority of us, so-called normal people,
trudge through our regular routines wishing for and hoping
for our next high - whether that's looking forward to the
weekend, the next night out or holiday.   But in our
ordinary everyday routine lives we are less than happy -
less than fully motivated.

The truth is that there are two parts of us - our inner
pure energy and our personality - and these two internal
elements are locked in battle.  As a result, we strive for,
hope for, wish for a better life, more success and
happiness, but we actually trip ourselves up in the pursuit
of our hopes and dreams.   It is our personality - the part
of us with which we are all so familiar - that holds us
back, that stops us being fully motivated, that disables
our true inner abilities to achieve great things, to live
our ordinary lives extraordinarily.  As I said, we're all
very familiar with our personality - our strengths, our
faults and our failings.

However, when my clients explore their self-perceptions,
many of them find that they can actually recollect the
first time in their lives when they actually felt a
particular - perhaps of inadequacy, self-doubt, anxiety,
fear, even self-loathing.  That is because our current
self-perceptions that make up our personality are merely a
compilation of the events that stand out in our
subconscious mind from our formative years, our childhood.
 Many years work indicates that we perceive ourselves to be
who we think we are based on a series of "snapshots" taken
whilst we were young and impressionable.   In addition,
years of research indicates that normal people are
pre-disposed to being negative - both about themselves and
their chances of success.

Add all this together and you will realise that the
perceived you - your personality - is a phantom-like
creation of your subconscious mind.   As it is created from
events that most impressed you during your formative years,
your personality simply could not be the real you.
However, your personality feels very real - your
self-doubts, your perceived inadequacies all manifest
themselves in your daily life, in your behaviour and in
what you get out of life.   That is why you need to be
motivated - and the bizarre thing is that the part of you
that needs motivation (your personality) is the very same
part of you that is preventing you being all that you can
potentially be.

You need to stop pandering to your personality.  Ignore it
(it might eventually go away!).  By-pass it by focussing
your attention in the here and now.   In doing so, your
subconscious mind's obsession with your personality will
begin to be broken.   In focusing in the here and now, you
will be less likely to waste your energy on the old,
useless, self-defeating thoughts that regularly distract
our minds from the task in hand, making the task in hand
more difficult or frustrating.  In paying attention to the
present moment, in engrossing yourself in whatever you're
doing, you will be better at it, more absorbed, more
effective, efficient, more likely to get the key things
done that will lead you towards living that ordinary
everyday life - extra-ordinarily.

Recent research indicates that our ability to be happy and
successful is correlated to our ability to pay attention to
the here and now.   It has nothing to do with
self-motivation - because self-motivation involves
pandering to a part of you that isn't really there, your
personality.  Get over yourself, get on with the present
moment - your true ability to achieve your dreams and
desires will then emerge - effortlessly.


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Willie Horton was born and educated in Dublin, Ireland. He
has worked in "self-improvement" with business leaders,
sports people and ordinary people for thirteen years,
enabling them understand how their state of mind creates
their lives. The results are described as 'unbelievable',
'life-changing'. Willie lives with his wife and children in
the French Alps. For more information, visit:
http://www.gurdy.net